Intent

The recent controversy in United Kingdom has been around the Royal Family being racist in their remarks to some of their friends. I don't think that anyone believes that Prince Harry or his Father are racist.

The fact that neither of the people concerned feel that Prince Harry or Prince Charles respectively, have been racist in their remarks or treatment of them, shows that the 'intent' was not racist. In fact, it seems that in one case at least, it was viewed as a term of endearment.

However, in today's society, it seems our intent is not enough. Our intent may be honorable but society now wants more. In the case of the two members of the Royal family, how they behaved and talked in private with their friends is no longer private and so they need to consider how their actions will impact others who see their behavior.

That is perfectly reasonable and I understand that. If you are a public figure you need to remember that what you say or how you behave has an impact on others. But where does the line get drawn?

I have been called a "whitey" before now. I was not offended. Why? Because at the times that it has been said to me, the intent was not negative. I may have felt different if I knew the intent was negative, but it wasn't.

So who makes the decision? Who decides if it is a term of endearment or an abuse of their heritage? Of course, there is no answer to this. Why? Because we are so quick to point the fault out in others, notice what others are doing wrong and seek ways to confront issues. But at the same time we forget to be responsible ourselves.

A responsible person dos not seek confrontation and does not seek to belittle others. They seek to understand the intent and make responsible decisions accordingly.

Did the Prince's intend to be disrespectful of the people concerned? I think not. Did the people concerned take it as disrespectful? Is seems not. Should others viewing it from outside and not involved in the relationship, view it as disrespectful? Do they have the right to form an opinion about a personal friendship and something they were not involved in?

I believe that they have no right to comment without first taking the time to know the 'intent'.

Having said that I am not agreeing with Prince Harry and Prince Charles. The Prince's should be aware that some people with less than honorable intent will use the actions of the Prince's as justification for their name calling. Those are the real racists and they are the ones that need dealing with.

It seems we spend more time finding fault with the people who set a bad example than the people who are really doing wrong. Last week I watched two ice hockey players beat each other up in the rink in front of a paying crowd.

The intent is wrong. The behavior is wrong. The example it sets to the kids (and adults) is wrong. Yet it is tolerated. Sometimes we need to step back and put things into context a bit more. It is about being responsible.